Parents want their nannies to enjoy their job. Here are 10 ideas of things that parents can do to care for their nanny.

1. Treat her with respect – Never talk down to her, speak to her in the manner in which you want to be spoken to. Respect her privacy in personal phone calls, her belongings, etc. Smile. It’s amazing how many people ignore the individuals who work in and around their home. These people are providing a service for you. It shouldn’t matter that you are paying them…you should be grateful for their service. Everyone works harder and “better” if we feel that our actions are appreciated.
2. Teach your children to respect your nanny by your example – Your children should learn how to respect others by watching you. Never talk about your nanny in a negative manner in front of the children. If she does something (not life threatening) that you don’t like, speak to her in private. Children shouldn’t have to feel the need to divide their loyalty between you and your nanny. They should see you as a “united front” who they can trust.
3. Make her feel a part of the family – I was fortunate to work with a family who made me feel as if I was one of them. Most nights, the entire family would clean off the dinner table and wash the dishes together. Some nights we would laugh and cry while watching a movie together. It motivated me do my job as if it were for my family, not just working for my employer.
4. Ask…don’t assume – If you need to be late, ask your nanny if she can stay an extra hour. Don’t expect that she won’t mind. A healthy work relationship will be established if you treat her with respect.
5. Encourage her interests – What type of music does your nanny listen to? Does she enjoy art? Is she a football or baseball fan? It may not seem important, but finding out the details of who your nanny is as a person, will help you create a better working relationship with her. If she is a baseball fan, you may want to incorporate a family outing to a baseball game.
6. Get to know her as a person…not just as an employee – How many siblings does your nanny have? Is she close to her parents? Grandparents? What was her favorite class in high school or college? Genuinely asking questions will encourage a friendship between you. Finding out where she came from and who is important in her life, will give you a window into why she is a nanny.
7. Pamper her – Surprise your nanny with an exceptional day away from the children. Giving her a day at a spa, a manicure or pedicure will give your nanny a break from your children. She will be able to relax and spend time alone and in the presence of other adults.
8. Send her home to spend time with family – What a special surprise to be flown home (at the employer’s expense) to spend time with family for a holiday. Many people long to spend time with their family members during the holidays, but can’t afford to do so. By sending your nanny home (at your expense), you are giving her an opportunity for a vacation from her responsibilities. At the same time, you will have the chance to spend time alone with your family.
9. Engage in an “adult” conversation – After spending hours with young children discussing bubbles, crayons and purple dinosaurs…an adult conversation is always appreciated. After the children are in bed, sit down with a cup of tea and have a conversation. Whether you talk about art, politics or fashion…your nanny will appreciate the time you spend with her.
10. Decorating – If your nanny lives in your home, help her decorate her room/quarters to make it comfortable and inviting for her. Let it take on her personality, so she feels it really belongs to her.

If a nanny feels loved and appreciated by her employers, it will be evident that she enjoys her job. Nannies are no different than parents; they need a break now and then from their daily responsibilities. Show your nanny how grateful you are for her. The outcome will be well worth your time, effort and financial expense.